And immigrating to America is hard work. let me tell you! International adoption involves more paperwork than a graduate thesis, and in my case I had to have every document triple notarized, which meant standing in line over and over again at the notary's office, the police station, the county clerk's office, the apostille's office, and several federal buildings. And most of that time in line I was waiting alongside people who were at some point along in the process of immigrating to America. It was disheartening. Security guards wrangled us like cattle, shouting orders at the crowd of us, containing mostly non-English speakers. People who were supposed to be guiding and serving us never looked us in the eyes, and I often startled them by looking straight at them and speaking to them in perfect English. They clearly were used to pushing people around, and if there's anything you can say (however stereotypically) about white, New York women--we DON'T like to be pushed around. I often wondered how anyone, especially those who didn't understand English could understand where we were supposed to go or what we were supposed to do, the instructions often being implied and assumed. Many times I found myself nearly in tears, hurting for the people who were confused and trying their best to follow the proper procedures--totally at the mercy of people who were bored and bitter-hearted in their jobs. One horrifying encounter with the nastiest of the New York county clerks (they seemed to hate their jobs more than any other people encountered on this journey) had me facing off with her while she insisted that the document I was asking to her to verify was improperly notarized--it was the original and only copy of Rahul's orphanage record. She held it in her hands seething with anger at me for having had it notarized contrary to her standards and I thought she was going to throw it back in my face or rip it into pieces as she went on and on about how wrong it was. And when she completed her lecture, I stared back at her, speechless, with tears in my eyes, and finally said, "OK...So, are you going to verify it or not?" She paused for a moment then without taking her eyes off me, she stamped the document and shoved it across the counter at me without saying another word.
Once Rahul's adoption was officially complete, almost 2 years ago, he should have automatically become a US citizen. But the law has not caught up with the relatively new phenomena of international adoption, so we adoptive parents have to shell out another $450 to apply for our children's citizenship. And I didn't have $450. So the papers sat on my desk in a folder awaiting the day when I had the money to spare to start the process. Then one day, a friend of mine pulled me over in church. She handed me an envelope and I was confused. Her father had just passed away very unexpectedly and she had just returned from his funeral days before. She was so young to be losing a parent and I had been praying for her for weeks. I couldn't understand why she was giving ME a card. After church I opened it. Rahul and I were buying a brownie in a coffee shop and I embarrassed him immensely by blubbering like a baby as money poured out of the card which described how she and her siblings had had some money donated to them at the funeral and her siblings were giving their money to their children. She however didn't have any children yet, so she thought of me and Rahul and decided to give it to us. She thought her dad would be happy to know that's where it was going. I decided right away that it would go towards Rahul's citizenship. Within days of hearing this story my sister called me and offered to donate the remainder of what I would need to process the paperwork from some extra money she had earned. And so, like so many pieces of Rahul's story--amazing, generous people got us where we needed to go.
The morning of the citizenship hearing was one of those crazy rain/ice storms and the traffic was terrible. When I finally found a place to park I stepped out of the car onto pavement covered in ice covered in rain and the parking attendant jumped out of my way so I could slip and rip my knee open. With a hole in my tights and blood pouring from my leg, I muttered under my breath something about not being aware a blood sacrifice was required for US citizenship. When Rahul and I got to the building our appointment was in, we saw a line wrapped around the building, standing in the rain that was now pouring sideways, and I recognized them immediately--the huddled masses. We took our place in line and entered the building a half hour later, soaked to the bone (so much for the cute outfits I insisted we wear). An hour of waiting later we were ushered into an office, sworn in, we signed a few papers, then we waited for another hour. Then someone brought out Rahul's certificate. And that was it. No confetti, no flag waving. I think what Rahul will always remember about the day is that he got to watch Monsters vs. Aliens in the waiting room.
But I think when you have to work hard for something, the earning is sweeter. And knowing that Rahul and I, and all those people who stood along side me, endured the process, I feel victorious. God bless America.
|My little American|